e-bag is irratating me!

The bottom line is that he should eat the shipping no questions asked. If he refuses then you can definately go through Ebay and/or paypal and get your money back but you obviously dont get the bumper. $40 for a bumper, even in driver condition, seems EXTREMELY cheap to me so even if you and the seller split the difference on shipping you still get the bumper way cheaper than you probably would end up spending anyways. Ultimately its your decision, let us know what happens.