Man, good luck, I wish you guys the best.
I will tell you this.....I'd rather get kicked in the balls repeatedly than to adopt kids again and have them go back to their scum bag, drug addict, pimp birth Parents after they turn 18.
They are pretty set in their ways after age 7 or 8 and very hard to keep them from having those childhood fantasies that their birth Parents will someday be magically changed for the better.
Two of my kids did this, one is now in jail, the other living like a scum bag with her scum bag husband with their scum bag birth Parents.
The third is doing fantastic and has no desire to go back to those assclowns.
Sorry man, I'm not trying to whizz in your wheaties, I am just speaking from personal experience from myself and others who have had this outcome as well.
Regardless, nobody can say you did not do your best regardless of the outcome, but it can sometimes be rewarding and sometimes thankless and heartbreaking, but someone has to do it, and you guys have hearts of gold to want to roll up your sleeves and dive into these waters.
If you ever need any advice or just someone to talk to, look me up bud.
We've had over 30 foster kids over the years and adopted three.
we've seen some of the worst abused kids you could imagine, and believe me it took some pretty strong urges from my Wife to keep me from going on hunting sprees to track down some of the scum bags who hurt those kids.
