Step Daughter problems (need advise)

excellent advice guys.......my mother made me start paying $20/week when i worked the summer when i was 14.......back in 1981. I didn't like it at the time but it did wonders in the long run. I say she either starts to contribute or she gets kicked out and no coming back this time.......I've got a friend who has a 36 year old son and she pays for everything - even paid for his cell phone last year when he racked up over $400 in 1 months' charges because he was whining that it was going to be turned off. She asked me "When is he going to start acting like a man?" I said, "When you make him act like one. Stop wiping his rearend (not the exact word I used)."

you are either working actively to solve the problem or you like living that way.....and I don't mean this in an offensive way. There is no way I'd tolerate some of that stuff, esp the part abt her having people over and stuff missing. If your wife continued to let her do what she wants then she will never amount to anything.

I'm having a few issues with my in-laws, and I put it to my father-in-law that if he continued to disrespect me by doing things he was told not to do I'd put a stop to him seeing my kids. He didn't like it and told my wife that (but wouldn't tell me), but that's too bad - I'm the captain of this ship, not him.