Step Daughter problems (need advise)

Try to explain to your wife that you cannot tolerate this anymore and stress to her that her enabling her daughter is doing more harm than good. Give your stepdaughter the final ultimatium, either you get a job and pull your self together or next time there is ANYTHING missing from YOUR home you are going to not only call the police but also press charges against her. This may cause your wife to go apeshit on you but hey, YOU NEED TO DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO!!! No other options at this point. Spell it out point blank to your wife that it may come down to either she wants you in her life or her sorry assed daughter. You really do not have many other options at this point. Good luck and keep us posted.