AAAARGHHH... freight from oklahoma

I would file a dispute with PayPal..
You could also open a FedEX Account (takes 24 hours to verify your bank account)
FedEX DOES freight also.
Create a shipment but you need the dimensions of crate H x W x L and the weight
Then contact FedEX to pickup shipment at his address.
If you get the dimensions and weight I give you a quote at my cost.
Business to Business address is cheaper.or Dock pickup on your side...
Sounds like he is a pulling scam on you...Just file with PayPal first and maybe you could demand that he deliver to shipping company like Fedex Freight and pay actual shipping.