Everybody, Let it go (minor rant)

ALL good advice for sure........ BUT we must never lose sight of the fact that WE are to be considered also.... I hope these are not suggestions for one to continually "give in" and "get over it"....
I don't mind compromise, I don't mind bending, hell I don't mind giving in completely now & then , but I will be damned if I set a course to just "accept" whatever someone else thinks I should do or act like, every time! AS adults we must remember that everyone does not always ACT like an adult and therefore "acceptance"( getting over it) must be tempered with judgments and decisions that INCLUDE each of our feelings as well!
YES people die, yes people act like children now & then.....but just because someone dies, does not mean I will base how I feel on the outside chance I will die OR they will die during the process....I refuse to live in that continuous "FEAR ZONE" I do not have the time nor the inclination to "review" everything that comes out of my mouth with the consideration that death may be around the corner!! That is, in the words of Shakespeare ""Cowards die many times before their deaths. The valiant never taste of death but once."
I never want to live my life forever giving in, forever thinking that it may be the last day of the person I am talking to or who talks to me.....so what? if they happen'd to be wrong and they die does that somehow make them right? OF if I happen to be wrong and I die does that make me right? I refuse to accept that guilt and I hope to God so do all of you!..... that kinda guilt can destroy a person and right or wrong I am certain that anyone who once loved loved us or still loves us would want us to bear that burden!!
IF you are anything less than you because of that fear, I have no need to know you....revelations 3:16

compromise yes
open to listening yes
tempering of decisions yes

giving in all the time - hell NO!!

as far as a "grudge" is concerned....AS adults once you have brought yourself to communicate and at the very least understand the other point of view...then it is decision time.... you can agree to disagree or you can embrace the other point of view categoric rejection is a sign of weakness ( unless you are talking political and governmental ideology ie: accepting the NAZI's) point is once you have made your adult decision you must be prepared to live with it and never bring it to bear against those you have selected to be in disagreement with OR those you have embraced!
Carrying a grudge is like carrying guilt it is an un-necessary burden on you and often times more destructive to YOU than to the principles you so strongly defend. Best to assign it to a category of nothing more than a memory, which in time will likely fade.... friends & family are initial / continued choices we make AFTER we realize they ARE our friends and family....hence the value of them to us must be based on MORE than a single incident or a single sentence or even a few of each.....life should not be measured by the number of breaths we take but by the number of things that take our breath away!
(Shing Xiong)..... rant rave say your peace, bend when the wind is strong and stand tall when you feel your position is strong....but never ever be less than who you are!
my 2 cents