Well, yeah, you kind of have to expect to be judged harshly when you try to enforce yourself upon others. Oddly enough, most people don't like being told what to do by a nosy buttinsky (or large groups of them).
This is really simple. You can probably understand it if you put on your thinking cap, give it a good try, and sound-out the hard words: just live by your own values and beliefs, and let others live by their own values and beliefs, and as long as you're not hurting others and others aren't hurting you, there'll be no problem. The world is full of people different than you.