It all came to a head yesterday.

YOU DID THE RIGHT THING.

I've been dealing with drunks, addicts and crack-heads for the past 25 years. My ex gf was once a stripper with a nasty drug habit. That $#!+ will f%^# you up. Even though she's been my ex for a long time, she won't let go of me - because I was an easy mark. I used to feel sorry for her self destructive ways. Plus she had my 2 cats which kept her on the straight and narrow while she's been living on her own. I would go over to see my cats (I'm allergic the the little buggers) and bring her cat food and kitty litter when needed since she couldn't afford it. Three years ago her mother in Alberta choked to death and my ex has been on and off drugs since then. This past year she's been full bore back on the drugs. I had to take the cats back because she wasn't looking after them. I still get phone calls that she's clean and sober and wants to come over and see her "babies". But I can tell from the sound of her voice she's messed up on the drugs and is jonesing bad. If I let her come over, she spends very little time with the cats and more time eating all my food, taking showers at my place because she's out of soap, shampoo and conditioner, takes my T-***** and socks so she's got something clean on. The B.S. just goes on and on. I told her she's on her own. She put me through hell for years and she's not getting another chance to do it again.

So after all that, addicts are master manipulators looking for sympathy. They'll try to spin things like we're the bad guys after they put themselves in a bad situation. You cannot change someone unless they are willing to change themself. Tell the kid that you'll support her if she goes back to rehab. If not she's on her own and don't come looking for any sympathy after she's $#!+ on all her friends and is all "alone".

I'll wish you good luck in this stressful time. Stand your ground. If you ever need to talk I can send you my cell #.


Wylde1.