Lost a friend today...
I have seen many people get on the bad side of the fence because "its the thing to do". while I have never lost anyone close to me from that situation, i do understand what it feels like to lose someone. I am sorry for your loss and i believe that everyone here will agree, that if you are into messing with that stuff, there is no light at the end of the tunnel, the grass isnt greener on the other side, it will only lead to your undoing. again, Im sorry for your loss
-Will