having trouble engaging the transmission

oh wow. did not know that. thanks for the tip. i'm about to start checking the car now. i'll let you guys know what i find... if anything. thanks again for all the help. please let me know if you have any other ideas about what to check in case it's not the flex plate bolts.

broke a flex plate once, made a sound just like you described in the first post, cant remember if i had trouble putting it in and out of gear.