Losing the motivation
Women think they're gonna change you into what they want. The can try for years & years and then finally realize you ain't gonna change. They sort of give up on you. They also remember things that hurt them and eventually can hate you for it. The important thing is to find another one and give/get some lovin'. We all need love. The women need it and so do we. Sure it's more physical for us and more emotional for them but somehow it works. If my wife dumps me, I'll take most of the blame. I love her and don't want to ever lose her but I certainly could be a better husband to her. Us men are just not cut to be Exactly what our women want. If we're lucky we can meet them in the middle somewhere and hold it all together.
My best advice is keep doing the things you love and go to the social events that surround them. Like car shows, Speed shops, the car section at Wal-mart etc... look for women in those places who share your interests.
That's some very good advice there.
May i add to it, to help you with your depression, go seek professional councelling if you can't beat it yourself.
Try to think of a time or times in your life when you were truly happy and try to put yourself in the frame of mind of what the circumstances were at that time and try to duplicate that.
Be happy with what you've got. And work with it.
I'm 49 and have a bum knee, i'm waiting for surgury on it and now i'm on short term disability from work and will probably be doing modified duties there off and on until the surgury. I still have a passion for my cars and do what i can when i can (and it's not much) but i still keep it going. If i have to convert my car to an automatic instead of a 4 speed, so be it. At least i'm still in the game. If i need to walk with a cane for the rest of my life so be it.
I know a guy that is a parapalegic because of a car accident who worked on cars, he did most of the work himself including painting them. He had his garage rigged up with all sorts of slings, ramps, and fixtures so he could do this. My accountant had polio early on in her life and is in a wheelchair 95% of the time. She is 60 now and still going strong, and is one of the strongest people i have met.
I also went through a bad marriage and a divorce, and it's tough. We as men usually try to blame ourselves, and that is not always the case. She was cheating on me and abusing me physically (a typical alcoholic) and i am so happy i am out of that relationship.
So, in summary, you are the only one responsible for your happiness. If you aren't happy, do whatever it takes to make this happen.
Starting this thread i feel was a good idea for you, now take the advice of all of the posters and run with it. Fill your life with good and positive people. Run away from negative people and dream stealers.
You are a dodge freak still, you just need to get back in the game!
I hope this helps.
Tom.