BIG Move being considered....help.....

I moved to North Carolina years ago and I was sponsored by the company who I was going to work for. I worked on a L1A work visa which was good for 3 years. Obtaining a Social Security Number is crucial as you cannot even open up a bank acoount without one. I think your best bet is for your wife to obtain a for sure job and have a lawyer tell you where to go from there, you will not be able to show up and just live there.