If your wife isn't on your side.... you do have it bad. I mean your wife is totally off in space if she allows her daughter cuss at you like that. I'd be telling her to pack her crap up and hit bricks as well. I might be a old time southern **** but the man SUPPOSED to be head of his household. I guess that's why I'm single. The ex tried to beat me down and make sure she controlled my every move. How'd that work out ...... not to good. I told her to get out of my house. The judge gave her nothing .... I mean NOTHING. The way you sounded in your first post that might be the best thing to happen is get a divorce. Yes it might cost you but at least you will have serenity and once again be happy. This type of stuff will mentally drag you down and kill you so be careful buddy.