My ebay feedback on a autometer guage seller

IMO, you screwed the guy leaving neg feedback. PERIOD!!!

He offered a full refund + return shipping when he found out the item was not right. Then you negative feedback him? If you wanted a different resolution, maybe YOU should have suggested one. That one the seller offered was probably the easiest and most commonly used/successful for them.

I guess if the item arrived, run over by a tank, that would reflect poorly on him?

If you buy something and end up with what you ordered you have nothing to complain about, especially when ordering over the net. Crap happens and if they take care of it, you got what you bought. If you are reasonable and they told you to go F yourself, then byatch up a storm.

People wonder why sellers don't want to deal with this nonsense anymore.