when you don't exist

My ex gf put her and her moms differences aside(mom was abusive alcoholic) when her mom was diagnosed with throat cancer. Eventually her mom went into pallative care and my ex still went to see/feed her every day. When you take a step back, it just isnt worth it, but some people, and your wifes family, they invest more time and effort into fighting and bitching instead of making things right. They are just cruel to the bone, but this just goes to prove that they are cold/heartless and who will be there for them on their deathbed? My condolensces to you and your wife Cliff.