Can I rant

did not read the whole thread, sorry. probably just more of the same slams on the other half. be lost without Ernestina. When I am outside doing anything she is either out there with me or staying out of the way, depends on what I am doing. i always get a laugh out of guys that are getting smothered. Ernie and I have an understanding that we are not going to do everything together. Spouses/significant others do not need to do everything together. in the 8 years we lived near her very large family i never attended a single family gathering, never heard a peep about it. at the same time when she wants to fly to AZ to see everyone she does not ask, she buys the ticket and tells me i need to take her to the airport. the woman can read my emotions like a book, could be why we have only had 1 fight in close 13 years. to the op, do not know your/her age but i can say from experience the modern day woman crap that was preached to me is very real. woman of a certain age group want it all, they want the security of a good guy in there life yet they want there own freedom. it is also the age when a lot of folks are a bit confused about things. they want you to have your freedom, but yet they still want you at there beckon call. some do not seem to understand for every action there is a reaction, that there is a little thing called responsibility for ones actions. to the folks that woman bash, would really like to hear the other side about your relationship with the female you are slamming. seriously doubt you were a saint. it takes 2 to make things work, and very seldom, in my experiences is a disaster relationship the fault of only 1 party. and if you have disastrous relationship after disastrous relationship maybe you are the common denominator. keep in mind that many people are constantly evolving, and just because something is/is not a problem today does mean that this will be the case tomorrow. to the op, and please do not take this as an insult because that is not how it is meant, but i have to ask do you love her for who she is or do you love her for what she represents?