i have no idea when or if it will happen .....in my culture its different bcoz my future permanant big kid gets to pick me .......i dont pick him ....and so far, no eligable big kids want to come with me. so i wait
I can't imagine you will have a problem...some of us like strong, smart women...and it's worth the wait to find someone compatible.
Perhaps a bit of cross-cultural action is in order.
Seems like you might be one to "get it" that logic and compassion ought to trump "the way things have always been done".