Ballast resistor

Where are Neutral safety switch wire connects to ... `?:?

It connects to one of the terminals on the start relay. You should not have three wires there. Where do the others come from/ go to?

One should be hot "in crank" from the ignition switch. The other goes to ground when the transmission is in park or neutral. Does not matter which connectors on the relay, the two "push on" terminals are the magnetic coil of the relay