whats the best way to bend a handle

My opinion?.....don't do it. Do like 66340sedan said and sell it, trade it or just use it as-is and wait for the right opportunity to come along! I don't think the shifter you want is actually that rare or hard to find. If you heat it, it'll look like sh**, and the chrome will be "done" and how will you feel then about how much you paid?

Patience.