Which state to live in?

Make it an adventure. Why would you want to live in a place where everyone looks, thinks, and believes the same as you do anyway? You're young! If you are a strong person who is centered in your core beliefs you can thrive anywhere. If you are overly-dramatic, claim victimization through bipolar political rhetoric, or simply intolerant to difference then you are going to have a hard time finding the "perfect place" in the USA anymore.

What I have found by living in several different regions of the country and abroad is that people are mostly the same no matter where you go. Choosing a place to live based on the fear-fantasies being spun through media would be most unwise imo.