Ok. Whatever you say. I was simply giving an opinion which you did ask for, remember? I cannot really see a "bend" in the arm. I see no broken paint where a bend would be. Nothing. I don't doubt you, I am merely telling you what it looks like TO ME, since you did ask.
Also, this is gonna get ugly. How bout either calling the seller directly or going to PM's. It seems to me the seller was willing to do something at one point, so it could have been resolved it seems like. For that control arm to bend like you say PLUS have the upper ball joint facing the opposite direction, there would be some bend marks or displaced paint or powder coat. I see zero evidence. Not taking sides. Just telling you what I see......like YOU ASKED.
Lastly, I will add this. The upper control arm on a MoPar is almost NON LOAD BEARING. There is no reason other than collision for that arm to bend. The lower control arms carry just about all of the weight.