Why do people Piss and Moan?

so then why dont you lay down the law in your own house .....your the bearer of the sword and the leader of the legecy of honor there, so why not

Just because you bear the sword does not mean you use it on everything, or everyone. (or even that it is the solution at all)
Being the male in a houshold doesn't automatically make you right, or give you the right to demand others do as you say.
Not in this country anyway.