Why do people Piss and Moan?
Holy crap.
That's a psyco, not a complainer.:D
Just goes to show, no matter how much chaos you tolerate, you're just making yourself miserable by doing so.
Nip it in the *** while you can or call plan B. You live once. Don't let life pass you by or live in fear (of loss, risk, etc.)...
It got to the point where I realized I would never be able to help that girl.
She was sweet, up until about the last year and a half of our relationship. She pursued me, but I don't ever think she had a handle on things, as much as she would have liked to think she did. Most anyone would have run, long before I did. I'm a patient person. My work and livelihood depend on it, but holy hell, I've got my limits and they are clear, now.
I'm always dumbfounded at how much happier I am now, when I look back. I've had my trials with my current sweetie, but it's nothing like that. We actually come up with active solutions and know what constructive criticism is and how it works. So far, we haven't made the same errors more than once with anything that gets on each other's nerves.
Talking without blame or accusation is the solution. Focus on change and practice what you preach. There is nothing wrong with calling someone out, as long as you offer equal amounts of reward and kindness, they won't take insult in the long run, especially if you look back and shed positive light on it. "remember when we had this problem? This worked well. Bla bla bla."
I learned a lot from my ex. Mostly about myself and how to handle extremely screwed up situations.
