Daughter wants to move in with her mom

ocdart said
My first suggestion would be to consult a family-law lawyer to see what your options are to protect your daughter from your ex's lifestyle.

Your daughter might also be feeling threatened by your upcoming marriage. Dads and daughters have a special bond. How has she bonded with your fiancé? Also, does your fiancé have any kids? What does the prospect of a blended family look like to your daughter? Kids are outstanding observers of behavior. It's possible she could be very afraid of losing your attention and part of your relationship with her after you get married. Counseling may help with this. Something to think about...

I do have a lawyer that I worked with on my divorce. He is a damn good one also! Although, Im hesitant to call him because last time the ex threatened something I contacted him and it cost me $500. Only for the ex not to go thru with her word.

As for the other questions. Yes my daughter mentioned she thinks my fiancé is taking time away from her. Which I cant see, but there must be something. This is something I for sure have to talk to my daughter about. My daughter and my fiancé do click very well and I will walk in the house catching those two giggling like girls do having a good time. She does not have any kids and to tell you the truth kinda awkward with kids. Its just not natural for her but she does try to bond with my daughter. Im not opposed to counseling if it helps her.

69MOPE said
You have 2 choices, first, you can let her go and find out the hard way, or, you can file for full custody before she does. What could help your cause, and your daughters cause, if a phone call to child family protection services about the wife's current parenting procedures and have them do an inspection of her life, for the protection of ALL the children. Your daughter will most likely fight you on staying with you and it will be hard for both of you but I know for sure that she will thank you some day for saving her. Stop worrying about her hating you now, once the mother's life crashes, and it will, your daughter, hopefully will see who was right.

I could have had the full custody when we got divorced, but I felt it best not to, for my daughters sake. I do think its important to have both parents in a childs life, I just wish my ex could think more clearly and see the same thing instead of dollar signs or what not.

I have debated about doing a trial run, but I really think its best that she stays at both houses so I can help raise her and be in her life!I have her this weekend, and even though we are heading out of town to gmas house. Im going to find the time to talk to her and let her know that I want her around, that she is important to me and for me to be a part of her life.

I can tell you that the past 6 months at least she has been a emotional rollercoaster with hormones and what not so I don't know if that has anything to do with it or not?