vacuum advance idle issue?

Dont worry about sounding "mean" nothing said online will ever really "hurt my feelings" ...im not that insecure. Rather get to the truth of the matter than pussyfoot around making life hard on other people....but anyhow... It runs too good all hooked up once its above idle speed..unhooked and yes plugged the idel is allright, not perfect. anything above that goes to hell unless i set the timming way off..if i hook it all up and set the idle really high i can get in in gear and running ok, but i can feel it sressing the tork converter, it dosent want to fully stop and feels like it pulls way to hard when you put it in gear. Almost like a neutral drop because its idleing so high, and wants to idle foward too fast.