She gets him to appointments and not much more.
They were out when we got there. we go in and the kitchen is a mess. Now i didnt really expect it to be perfect, but the stuff on the counter hadnt been moved in months. I cleared the counter and wiped everything down trashed half of it and organized so there was a couple feet of open space. They came back with stuff to make sandwches. My daughter and i go in the living room to talk with Dad for a few minutes thinking sis is getting the sandwich stuff out. I go out and she had everything put away and a vase of flowers on the counter i just cleared. So I pick them up and loudly sit them down on the other side of the sink and say' how bout if we use this nice clear space to make sandwiches'. She stood there clueless. Then we start getting our food and i thought she was going to make Dad a sandwich, never happened. My 18 year old daughter stepped up and made it for him while sis stood there. I dont get it, but have given up hope of her changing. I need to figure out how to handle the situation. He is crossing the line where he cant take care of things himself . Its tough for me cause hes 2 hours away from us. She has benefited from him for so many years, i thought she would reciprocate, but now im questioning if shes even capable. I am his POA and have every intention of acting on it very soon...