which is better and why forward or reverse pattern mvb

It just boils down to preference. Do you want to pull the shifter toward you to shift up, or do you want to push it away? Would you rather have neutral next to 3rd, or 1st?

The reverse schpiel is a non-issue for aftermarket shifters. You're not going to dump it in reverse on accident.

I did the trans-go tf3 and a hurst promatic 2. I'm perfectly happy with pushing forward to up-shift.

The tf3 gives really hard, positive shifts. I think you could fiddle with how far back you wire the kd lever to adjust how firm the shifts are, but I like'em firm so it's wired all the way back. And of course it has low-band apply so no worries of drum fragments taking out your ankle.

I've never understood why some people think MVBs suck on the street. My dart is the first car I've ever owned that was an auto. Even with an mvb, it's still loads "easier" to drive on the street than a manual. (Not that manual is difficult.)