Starter Relay Wiring

OK everyone here's my situation. '70 Dart, 440, half stock wiring, half "custom." Referring to the bottom wiring diagram (here's link is hard to see http://www.valiant.org/wiring/Wire_69a.gif), I can see how the starter relay is SUPPOSED to be wired in the lower left corner but obviously it's not quite right. I have labeled where each wire goes. Now I know the voltage regulator is not supposed to be connected to it but that's how I got it and it ran, just not correctly. The bulkhead connectors are partially good and partially snipped. So, unhooking the light blue wire from the relay causing the starter to not work when I turn the key, leaving only the positive cables coming from the starter and fuel pump switch to only be connected to the relay, which still allows the fuel pump still turn on when I throw that switch. Now my complex question: how should I wire this so the wire connecting the voltage regulator and ballast to the alternator doesn't need to go to the relay in order for the engine to start? Also on a slightly related note, shouldn't the alternator "charge" wire somehow be connected to the starter to charge the battery? Keep in mind at this juncture I'm open to making this car run and would like to hear any and all options you guys thing feasible. FYI, the battery is in the trunk.