fuel pump wiring woes

The pump wiring via relay is pretty simple. Here is the power and pump connection.
1. 12v (from your fuse block most likely) goes to one of the contact connections of the relay.
2. The other contact connection of the relay goes to the + side of the pump (probably a red wire).
3. The other connection of the pump goes to a ground nearby.

The control side is:
4. One side of the relay coil to ground.
5. The other side of the relay to one side of the control switch.
6. The other side of the control switch goes to 12v.

What relay do you have?