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dustermaniac said

Good Morning everyone. I managed to get about 2 hrs sleep. Today is Dee's memorial service. I am doing a eulogy and I tried to write down my eulogy on paper but I just could not condense 24 years. Into 2 pages. So I'll try to just deliver it on the fly. We all are still deeply greiving her and the level of hurt runs high. I'm told this is a form of closure but it don't feel that way.

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Tom, I don't know you but I want to offer my condolences. My heart goes out to you and your daughters.

I know we have different traditions over here and I apologize if I'm out of line to weigh in. In Sweden the closest relatives are very rarely expected to speak at a funeral at all. All they have to manage is to place themselves in the pew and be first in line to lay a rose on the coffin.

Whatever pressure you may feel to get this 'right' is from within yourself and I would be surprised if anyone attending will be disappointed whatever you manage to say. And as far as Dee goes, I'm sure she can feel your love and loss without a single word spoken.

Go easy on yourself.