Stop in for a cup of coffee

my wife and I discovered a very nice place in Jupiter Fl. last year - bring your wallet AND credit card because you're probably going to need them! 100% - if you're going to go to a "special" venue (restaurant, vacation resort - whatever) go prepared to use the accommodations that are there.. that IS why you go there isn't it? that's what it's all about... paying to be pampered a little and NOT have to bring your stuff... Christ people are cheap..
Well, wine for a big wedding in a fancy place will be thousands of dollars. You don't have to be cheap to want to avoid that. The best way to do that, however, would be to accept your limitations and choose a less fancy place. Not pretend you can afford something you can't.