New from pa

Wow this is nuts I have so many questions
That's probably your best resource.
really want someone who knows what they are looking at
Here's the catch; it depends on what you've got there. If dealing with a street rod, its different than knowing a stock setup.
Well for right now just kinda want to have someone look at the car with me and Dad to learn about it ....I know that sounds funny but ...also gonna need someone who knows how to tune these things
Here's the deal, tuning for a stock engine means bringing it to factory specs. Tuning for hot rod means systematic experimentation (within some guidelines based on the setup). This is often two very different things. A few people can do both well. Ken Montgomery's son may be someone in your driving range, if he's running his dad's place. Montgomery Service Center, Corner of Baeder & Wharton, Jenkintown.
but driving it a long distance would be horrible...lol with the gearing that's in it ....55 mph is about 3200 rpm ...very loud
That's a matter of perspective; The previous owner may have loved it that way. Probably set up with low gears to maximize power in the 1/4 mile. Your car now, so you must have a vision for it. Going to other people for what it "should be" rarely works out. Go to other people to get what you want, that sometimes works out. LOL.

There's a lot of nonsense out there, between1/2fasts, BSers and marketing. Didnt start with the internet either. lol.
Most trustworthy written tech will be from authorities on the subject, SAE and Chrysler training materials and stuff like that.
Master Tech series is available here
Master Technician Service Conference - Chrysler's Training for Mechanics
There's booklets on combustion, timing, carburation how it works as well specific tuning. Start with the how it works stuff.
For Holley carbs, I like Mike Urich's books the best for explaning the basics. Buy them used.