Good Point.....thanks for the condolences.....The last couple years of my fathers life were horrible for him and I was the guy....The only one he had for help except for his care who was a live in 24 hour care person. I did the food shopping and made sure his bills were all payed..He had worked his entire life and saved and invested so me and my brother who lives in Texas would have whatever that was left to split evenly. My bro never came to visit and I knew the only time he would come was when our father was in a casket. He comes to town and is already asking about possessions......really???....I'm one who likes to not make waves but I can see this turning into a bad situation quickly. I did everything that was needed to get done and my brother does not care about how much I did for our dad. My father did have a will and did leave us a 50 -50 split and I'm the executor which is a good thing.....I just want to have a relationship going forward with my only sibling.