Stop in for a cup of coffee

Ever read Shogun? Many cultures recognize that formal niceties help keep things somewhat under control. I have a neighbor who hasn't been able to get along with the people next to her. When things were going OK - I couldn't get her to just try to be civil; say hello, ask how the dau. is doing, stuff like that to thaw the general situation. It would have gone a long way..but no...