Tough stuff Dave. You have to do it, but its never easy. All we can do is hope its not frustrating to him. I had an uncle who knew what was happening and was very frustrated - at least while he still could communicate but couldn't find the words... My friend's mom, seem to be far more content, but hell we never know. My dad was totaly unconcious but it sure seemed like he knew we were there - of course that wasn't Alz - my point only that we don't really know what they're thinking or feeling