Crazy alignment problems

I don’t know if they would have anything to do with it but ever since I went to the PerformanceOnline front disc kit I’ve had this problem. It seems like the passenger side is the problem. The driver side seems ok.
That was gonna be one of my next questions..... if the UCA's and spindles are not properly matched, then you'll never be able to get it right. Saw that on a car for sale.... wrong year UCA's vs spindles and the front end was all out of whack. I'll admit I have forgotten a lot of what goes with what, so maybe someone can take that matter up.

But first, let's go back to this statement: "When it goes forwards, the front end goes way down, toes out and hits the fenders."

Is the front end going down because you are moving forward onto a more sloped section of driveway, or are applying the brakes hard and it takes a set down? I am trying to figure out why this happens.... I can think of a couple of things:
Now for the 2nd part of your statement.... For the front end to toe out when the front end goes down, then the tie rod and LCA are at different angles and/or tie rods are improper lengths. The toe rod angle being shallow compared to the LCA or the tie rod end being too long would do as you describe. Things to think about that can cause that:
My best bet at this point is that you have something wrong with the draglink or idler. Looking at your 4th pix in post #17, the wheels appear to be turned full left, and yet the idler arm is pointing almost straight back... that is messed up. IIRC, the idler should be straight back when the wheels are straight ahead and angled over to the passenger side when the wheels are turned left. The passenger side tie rod being suuuuper extended matches with this apparent problem.

Looking at the ninth picture in that group of the driver's side, the wheels are turned hard right and the pitman arm location looks right; it is angled to the driver's side, and the tie rod end is a normal length.

IMHO, you may have the wrong draglink in there for the other parts that you have.