My wife and I have been married for 30 years this coming February. I tried something at the very beginning that seems to have worked, and I have since wondered why other men have not tried this. Immediately following our wedding, I looked her in the eye, stomped my foot down, and with the sternest look I could muster said " Get this and get it straight! From here on out, YOU'RE the boss!". 30 years, still working!