46RH making noise in Park and Neutral

Got the pan cleaned and the gasket surfaces bright and shiny. Even chased the threads in the transmission holes. Then I realized some things...

I love the smell of brake cleaner. :)
To adjust the band, it takes a 5/16" 8-point socket and a dial in/lb torque wrench of which I have neither. I do have a click type torque wrench and a complete selection of metric and standard 6 and 12-point sockets. Couple questions...

Is there any way to use what I got to adjust the band?
When torquing down the long filter bolts, I tighten them pretty good until the filter is 'smashed' tight where the bolts are. Is this right?
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