Percolation? Heat soak? Don't drive during summer??

25-30 minutes of idling and revving and it didn't die, what a piece of crap... i ended up shutting it off because my wife was yelling at me that the whole house smelled like old car and that I needed to come in and eat. The temp guage was hitting 220 which is out of my comfort zone for the car as well, I wish it never got past 200* while sitting and idling, I think thats wishful thinking though.

I'm thinking the ballast resistor doesn't need to be hot as Satan's balls when the engine is running, so maybe I should start with replacing that first... the ecm wasnt to hot when I shut it down and neither was anything else... besides the ballast resistor
Save your money there is nothing wrong with the resistor, they run dam hot that's why they are mounted in a ceramic cube.
If it gets to 220 at idle in your garage you have other issues, no wonder it is stalling out on the road.