im no professional but a lifter should not be mushroomed to the point you can't get it out after 600 miles. That's some serious heat. Was the mushroom one on one of the bad lobes? I have seen carbon buildup stick a lifter in the bored before but not after 600 miles sounds like a oilling problem mixed with some bad geometry lol.
The way measured my preload was put the expandable pushrod in with the lifter and lobe in the valve closed position screw it up till it touches the rocker and takes the lash out. Then remove the rocker measure it and compare it to your pushrod it should be .02-.06 longer than the adjustable one