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Many of us on here have went thru this. I applaud your wisdom and strength reaching out to us. My experience was similar in that no doctors visits and as a result she suffered in silence. Once it got to the point of chemo it was to late. Holding her hand and feeding her ice chips I was angry at entire world. Your buddy can certainly look at his situation as a blessing. Those of us that have watched the destruction chemo wrecks upon the body only extending the breath of life for a short time understand the pain that that entails as well. Your buddy’s wife perhaps got called home early to spare her the long inevitable painful ending. She passed quickly and was spared much suffering. In turn he has been spared the suffering and feeling of helplessness that we have all felt. I certainly cannot speak for others but as I stared down at the wrecked body in the hospital bed wondering at the unfairness of it all guilt wracked my body as I felt undeserving of life while she laid there easily the far better human being. Your buddy may be feeling these guilt emotions. Again the woman he loved got the call to go home early, merciful for sure. Perhaps he will see the mercy in the end of her walk her on earth. My heart aches for him as I know so many others on here do as well. You can read the pain and suffering in every post. Cancer Sucks. Be there for your friend in whatever capacity he needs.