He moved out last year because he said I was trying to control his life. I have backed off and only hear from him when he needs something. At least he was smart enough to call his mom when he went to jail last summer. I have told him I will not be used by him so we dont talk much anymore.
The sad thing is he acts just like his step dad that she finally left in the last few months. I warned her when she married that man 15 years ago but it is too late now.