Valve lash.. Hot /cold ? How hot is hot?

The mass of the castings and even the shape of the castings will change how and where a casting grows. The heat in the head and block is much higher than the heat in the pushrods. Localized heat in the heads is much higher than the pushrods. Changes in engine coolant temps will change how much the lash changes from cold to hot.
So... too many variables to know for sure, measure it yourself :D As you've said.