Found the answer. sharing so I can find it later.
When I called Mcleod I spoke with Billy and he told me with the back of the flywheel facing me that the holes to the left are position "A" and for the smallblock weight, the other two holes are what he called position "C" (no B he said) and are for 383/400/440. He told me the weight I need is Mcleod #460016
So it looks like I will be ordering the weight I need from Brewers and going from there...Hopefully this all works out ...thanks for all the help everyone, it was mucho appreciated!
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