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That's great and all but it can cause friction in the house.
oh i wont deny it did at times
i remember one time sitting down with my middle girl and she said "dad, i can always tell when you get frustrated with grandma, because you start yelling at her in Dutch"
needless to say, grandma didnt speak Dutch
Not move in with her but move to where she lives so she can be closer. We wouldn't do that to her lol
that was our first move when her dad got sick
i wanted a place where we could "keep an eye on him"
preferably a 2 family home but i didnt want them to feel like they were living by my grace
it was almost impossible to find something where the second family part didnt look like an afterthought or like it was executed half heartedly
i looked and looked and finally said "screw it" and bought us a duplex instead
so they had a full 1700 square feet, 2 full bathrooms and 3 bedrooms, plus a full kitchen (you would not believe how many "2 family homes" do not have 2 full kitchens)
he lived there for 3 years and then he died there
one day, about a year later my wife went over to see her mom, and she asked her what she was making for dinner
her mom said, nothing, i dont have anyone to cook for anyway
within a month from that happening we had the duplex sold and bought the home we are in now
im not saying it is right for everyone (and there might even be a cultural element in it) but this has been what works for our family
(and we have a somewhat unique structure that allows us some more freedom to do these things anyway)