Don't do this to your children

Went through this last year with my mom's estate after she passed in May. My mother did not have a hoarding issue, it was just 93 years of living. It seemed that it took forever, then filled a large dumpster so that the house could be sold as is. Now it's my girlfriends mother, she had a stroke at 91 and is half paralyzed. Nursing home is $12,000 a month. We live 350 miles away.
Her mom saved everything, and I mean everything, right down to boxes and paper.
You can hardly get into the house. My girlfriend complains about this, guess who is just like her mother, but she doesn't see it in herself. I am trying to put my foot down, at age 72, I don't need anything that I don't already have!