The kids are always the ones that lose in the deal especially when you're dealing with someone with psychotic tendencies that's starts to view the kids as "their" possession. I had to walk away from one of my daughters because the bs and drama centered around the visitation. Everytime I got my daughter on the phone, my ex was telling her to tell me she didn't want to see me anymore. I walked away so my daughter didn't have to listen to the shyt but my daughter will never see it that way. I had no success with an Alienation of Affection suit in the judicial system.
