Oh BTW, she’s got remote work doing consulting and will continue to save the family money by canning and pickling things she grows. She currently works and makes $33 an hour. That’s not worth missing the childhood of your offspring.
A woman’s independence is not gained by being in the workforce, away from her kids for 40 hours a week. Kids are a woman’s greatest achievement. She should work, but “work” should be done on the thing that matters most.