Depending on if your car has a clutch switch NSS or no NSS the relay will have one terminal grounded or not. You can use either, but if you do not have any type of NSS you will need to ground one if the relay terminals .
Manual trans before NSS introduction (note the grounded terminal)
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Automatic trans (note the terminal it goes to the NSS, grounding it makes it work just like the manual trans relay)
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