Stop in for a cup of coffee
I understand. At my Dads military funeral at Florida National Cemetary they showed so much respect for my Mom, and it wasn't until it was over that it really hit us. A few years later when my Mom passed she was buried with him and her name was engraved on the back of his headstone. Its a ways to go but I've visited a few times. All the crosses in a row and each one with a story as important as his.